How to raise great kids in 2024
Teach them not to see failure as an embarrassment.
One of the biggest mistakes we make as parents is teaching our kids that failing is bad.
Sometimes we do it unintentionally (or without knowing we are doing it.)
When a child brings home a bad grade, the first impulse is often to express disappointment.
This primarily does two things:
-It tells them that doing poorly on a test or in class is embarrassing.
-It teaches them to avoid situations that could evoke feelings of shame and embarrassment.
This leads to them concluding that challenging situations could lead to embarrassment and should be avoided at all costs.
The Better Approach:
1-Encourage them first: don’t start with disappointment. Instead, affirm your belief in their ability to learn and improve.
2-Praise improvement over achievement: valuing achievement too highly can lead to a fear of failure. Reward any amount of progress, no matter how little..
Improving the overall learning process — like paying attention and practicing — is more valuable than simply getting the answers right.
Solving equations with predetermined answers is less important than navigating problems that don’t have straightforward solutions.
